The Third Genre
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Gay Men and Women – How and When To ‘Come Out’?
Worldwide, as we speak, men and women, young and old, are agonizing on their private secret: ‘I’m gay, and I can’t hide it anymore’. People who just want to live a life as a regular couple with someone of the same sex. Many of us have family and friends who consider homosexuality as ‘abnormal’ or ‘wrong’, so it’s natural for people who are gay to have reservations about telling those special to them how they feel.
The first thing to consider: who NEEDS to know? You aren’t obligated to tell anyone it doesn’t concern. Who you tell comes down to several things. Firstly, who do YOU feel you want to know? Who do you want to talk to about your love life, your attractions, your relationship ups and downs? These people will be close friends, possibly family, too.
Consider your current lifestyle. Do you have a partner now? If so, is it becoming more important to share them more in your daily life, with other people special to you? Often, people in love, straight or gay, want that person involved in their life more as a relationship grows. When in a relationship, we like to bring our partner to special occasions, celebrate, have support during the bad times. Maybe you wish to live together, and have realized that those around you will need help understanding this. Some people choose to tell their loved ones they are gay because they don’t wish to feel that they are ‘hiding’ anymore. These are all ‘turning points’ that will lead to a person wanting to let others in their life know that they are gay.
There are times when a person decides to wait for an easier time to tell loved ones, particularly family. It’s sad to admit, but oftentimes true that families can have a harder time dealing with the news that a family member is gay. Attending high school can make ‘coming out’ an extremely stressful situation. Students may be fearful of being teased or not accepted by their peers. No student should be treated badly because they are gay, obviously, but it consider this – if you are at school and aren’t dating, is it anyone else’s business? If you’re fortunate to have some very mature friends, of course, tell them if you think it will help you.
Some high school students find they prefer to hold off telling family until necessary, perhaps until they are older, have left school, or even have left home. This gives parents time to see that children have grown and matured, and it isn’t a ‘phase’ or something they can try to stop. There is of course, always the exception, and there are a lot more open minded parents around, whose reaction could surprise you.
Another common situation is homosexuality in heterosexual marriage. This can be extremely stressful for both husband and wife. One person feels trapped in a lifestyle that is no longer making them happy. A gay husband or wife can suffer a lot of guilt over the way they feel, to the extent of staying in the relationship as a way of ‘making it up’ to the other partner. If this is you, ask yourself: are you helping your husband or wife, in holding off dealing with your feelings and telling them? Not only are you prolonging your happiness, but theirs too. They’ll need time to deal with the marriage’s end, and you should make this as easy and painless as possible. If this means ending the marriage sooner, then it’s possibly the best way. The longer you stay married, the more the chances are your partner will grow more attached. If your spouse truly loves you, they’ll only want your happiness. Yes, they’ll miss you, want to stay married, but few people want to keep someone in a marriage if they’re unwilling.
Many gay people divorce their husbands or wives and stay best friends. But of all the people who need telling, husbands and wives rank highly! Or, at least, if you don’t tell them you are gay, they deserve an amicable split.
The next suggestion may sound trite, but still bears mentioning. Why not talk to a counselor? It can be ‘practise’ for telling your loved ones. What’s great about counselors, is they can help you work out what’s the right thing for you to do, and how to say it best.
Which brings us to the next question– what to say? Honestly? Whatever you want! But, a good guideline is to start with why you are telling them. If you are single, you might just want to say that you prefer dating people of the same sex. If you are in a relationship, you could just let the person you are telling know that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. It helps if you make a short simple statement to start with, then give the recipient a moment to process this news.
Some people you ‘come out’ to will say, ‘I knew it all along!’, ‘good for you!’ or, ‘so?’ These people are a breath of fresh air, and will make you wonder why you didn’t tell them sooner. Others will have questions, some may be angry or upset. Please remember, that although you need all the love and support from these people, that many people have been raised in families that taught homosexuality is ‘wrong’. Go in with a willingness to work through the feelings with your loved ones. For parents, it can be a shock, for the reason that they may feel scared about not having grandchildren, even if they accept homosexuality.
It isn’t acceptable, however, for anyone to abuse you. If this happens, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. Let tempers calm down, protect yourself from others’ anger. Realise people often calm down and accept things with time. Some people may never accept this, and it’ll be your decision how to handle those people.
Above all, be true to yourself! It’s your life, and you’re the one living it. As mentioned, you may wish to wait, and there are many good reasons for doing this. However, there’ll come a time, when you’ll wish to live and love the way you want to. Take time, and you’ll always find a way. If you know who you want to inform you are gay and why, you’re halfway there! All there is to do now is to wish you the best of luck. People can surprise you with their acceptance, and people who are gay are often overwhelmed by the freedom this experience can bring.
About The Author
Sharon A is the owner of the free dating site, http://www.singles-world.info
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Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Latino Men Often Attracted To Older White Males
After nearly three years of personal research and meeting for casual sexual encounters, Coach Scott (www.coachscott22.com) concludes with certainty that if a person has even one-forth
Latino heritage, it is likely that he has an attraction to older white males.
Coach Scott, A forty-five year old white male has spent thousands of hours within gay chat rooms, message boards and dating web sites. \Each day Coach Scott receives over twenty offers for a sexual connection. It is a quantifiable fact that over fifty percent of these requests are from Latino males. These men are currently married or describe themselves as straight and bisexual.
Their desire to be will older white males is so great that they often engage in casual sexual encounters. Coach Scott has met with and engaged in sexual relations with over fifty Latino (Hispanic) males (age range of 19 and 30.) All described themselves as Catholic, family oriented and disease free. All of the men Coach Scott encountered desired kissing, performing or receiving oral sex. Some desired receiving or performing anal sex.
The details of this research are found at the web site www.coachscott22.com, The comments of this article are based entirely on the experience of Coach Scott and are intended as an observation of human behavior that requires additional research, analysis and debate.
About The Author
Coach Scott is a forty-five year old male who grew up in the Midwest and lives in California. Coach Scott conducts research on casual Internet encounters between men. The results of this research reach far beyond the homosexual community. Coach Scott is often quoted in non-adult periodicals and media. Coach Scott offers books, a daily log, a forum for questions and much more. (www.coachscott22.com)
Monday, July 31, 2006
The Spritual Poverty of the Gay Lifestyle!
THE EARLY YEARS
Fortunately for all Americans the 1960's, 70's and then 80's led first to greater sexual freedom and liberation - and then to greater sexual honesty, The internet boom of the last decade solidified those gains to the extent that there can likely never really be a return to the sexual "dark ages".
THE GAYS & THE "THREE B's"
Gays and Lesbians had historically lived prior to the Stonewall Riots lives of quiet desperation "in the closet" facing overt hostility and repression every day of their lives.
After the STONEWALL RIOTS - our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters overall marched straight out of their closets and eventually right down MAIN STREET or FIFTH AVENUE or MARKET STREET or SANTA MONICA BOULEVARD in their festive PRIDE PARADES across North America and now across the world. Many gays and to a lesser extent Lesbians want to be open about their sexual orientation - while this is NOT the case with most bisexuals - especially happy bisexuals.
Soon across America there were dozens of openly gay bars, adult bookstores, and bathhouses in every major North American city. Gay Community Centers sprouted in most every major North American city - save San Francisco - where until recently the community was so fractious they could not even open such a center! Gay Community Centers with time became Gay and Lesbian Centers - then GLBT Centers and soon to be GLBT and P - polyamory - and Q centers - Queer.
Maybe one fine day even the new, trendy METROSEXUALS will join the sexual minorities to party and to parade!
The GAY PARADIGM - which emerged as a result of this desire for being OPEN - was often confrontational to the larger straight community with a certain "WE'RE QUEER and WE'RE HERE!" element in far too many areas of America. In the gay era before AIDS the fact of life was that the gay community was hijacked by the THREE B'S who made a killing - and also ultimately killed off thousands if not millions of gays. They are the BARS, the BATHS, and the BOOKSTORES. Their agenda was to make FILTHY LUCRE and they did so rapaciously for years and years. Gay communities in these early years - including their activists and journalists became dependent on these deep pockets but they too were all too often caught in the thrall of the 3 B's AGENDA - even hidden agenda of SEEK BUT DO NOT FIND.
Even today the "beau ideal" of the American gay community is some twenty-something twink or hunk or military type - portrayed again and again for decades endlessly and all but mindlessly. This beau ideal type can never be snared and brought home to one's bed - save at a hefty price (escorts and models or trade) - much less to one's life and family! Billions have been and will continue to be made on the backs and knees of these 18 to 25 year olds who are then cast off for next year's "model". Nothing is sadder than meeting a middle-aged towel boy at a gay bath or spa or a broken down bartender at some gay bar who openly laments that he was once "somebody" in the gay limelight years ago.
The NOT so secret moneymaking agenda of the POWERS THAT BE in the gay community - the 3 B's and their legion of co- conspirators was "SEEK BUT DO NOT FIND". Gay men HAD to go out as often as possible to the bars, the baths or the bookstores - as they might be missing out on something or someone. Even if they found someone it was and is all too often a one-night stand if not a 15 minute standup. One gay friend recently admitted to me he had not had horizontal gay sex since the AIDS epidemic was full-blown (i.e. two decades). While many gay men do find long-term committed relationships - as the new Gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire - far too many will regale you with Elizabeth Taylor-esque tales of their 13 husbands and numerous affairs - few lasting more than a season or two. BUT - the 3 B's want gays "to seek but do not find" - to be good consumers - good customers! I attended University of California's Hastings College of the Law in San Francisco in the early 70's and one openly notorious homosexual law student openly proclaimed that his small gay bar and its 11 long-term regular patrons who cashed their every paycheck there paid his way through law school. He admitted that over two dozen such "regulars" were openly feted at all major holidays and their every birthday to keep them as "regulars".
Even to this day - the GAY PARADIGM - the GAY COMMUNITY is still trying to shirk this "seek but do not find" rigid pattern. Unlike many happy bisexuals - gays and even many Lesbians - are still under this spell - notwithstanding that even the major gay mecca cities San Francisco and New York closed the gay baths - gay bars are half in number or half full today -yet the adult bookstores - and videos - and pornographers are richer than ever - harvesting a new crop of young twinks and studs for their 15 minutes of fame every season of every year until the end of time. The internet has been a major boon to pornography and pornography sales worldwide especially in the gay "beefcake" market.
THE THREE B'S REPLACED BY MAJOR MERCHANTS OF GREED
Things - largely due to AIDS as well as long-term maturing gay and lesbian community - have changed and are changing - but the change from the "3 B's" holding the community in its thrall has morphed into gross and crass materialism as soon as the major marketing gurus found the Gay and Lesbian NICHE of affluent consumers with huge discretionary spending who were eager to "Seek and Find" and then "Seek and Find" again - consumer goods and luxury travel and the like.
NOW the vast majority of the FORTUNE 500 companies market to the Gay and Lesbian Community noting in their marketing circles that the Gay and Lesbian market is one of the larger and more affluent segments of today's marketplace. Gays and Lesbians who were already as average American consumers easy prey for materialism and consumerism were even more easily influenced when buying this and that product led to acceptance by this or that major corporate icon, this or that major world conglomerate - tied with greater status and greater rank in one's millieu.
HERE COME THE ALTERNATIVES:
Finally, after this gay party and Pride parade - then gay + Lesbian party and parade - was far along - here come some welcome alternatives. The Metropolitian Community Church has been with us for decades and has sought to help fill the spiritual hunger of many gays and lesbians who want to find that solace and inner peace in a gay and Lesbian religious setting.
Many mainstream Christian churches have embraced the gay and lesbian community in many outreach programs as the Churchof Christ and the Unitarian/Universalists and the gay and lesbian support groups and organizations within their home churches as Dignity, Integritry, and the Brethern and the like. Islam offered up "Gay Muslim" groups and there are many GLBT groups for Jews, Buddhists, and other faiths.
Many gay and lesbians have also explored alternatives to organized religions with New Age thinking, yoga, Scientology and other stops on that long travelled road the American pursuit of happiness trail.
Microcosm vs. Macrocosm:
Maybe gays and lesbians just finally caught up with the mainstream of American life - gross, crass materialism being catered to and cajoled into more and more consumer spending and more and more consumer debt to "Seek and Find" and then continually in yet more and more rounds of self-indulgence and over-indulgence to "Seek and Find" again and again. Sadly there is no "silver bullet" for the Gay and Lesbian community nor American society as a whole. When and where will we all find something more valuable, reliable and relevant - than buy, buy, buy and more, more, more? When?
Best Wishes,
Stewart (Mac) McCloud, Founder/President, Bi MEN NETWORK, www.bimen.org - 1/4 million men with us today!
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About The Author
Stewart (Mac) McCloud is the Founder & President of the Bi MEN NETWORK - www.bimen.org - the world's largest social & support organization for bisexual men, bi-curious male, gay guys & bi couples. Now with over 1/4 million such adult members across all six continents it is the world's largest association today with a bisexual focus. Many gay men who were previously bisexual or gay men disaffected and alienated from the gay lifestyle are part of the Bi Men Network. Free social support and resources with a bi male focus!
Friday, July 07, 2006
Gay Weddings Hit The Highlands
It's all systems go in the Highlands for wedding planners and wedding venues alike. On 21st December, this year, Civil Partnerships between same sex couples - commonly known as Gay Weddings - will be permitted throughout the UK. Already, some Scottish wedding planners report considerable interest from the gay and lesbian communities for the traditional 'kilt and bagpipes' wedding in a Highland castle or a luxury hotel.
But the arrival of equality in the wedding aisle north of the border has not been without its hiccups. As The Press and Journal reported on 4th August: "Highland councillors have recommended registrars only perform a basic registration - the absolute minimum required by the legislation..."
Not surprisingly this perceived homophobia caused an uproar in the gay and lesbian community, and among politicians at the national level. Intensive lobbying of the council began.
Other Scottish local authorities reacted differently. Perth and Kinross, Angus, Aberdeenshire, Argyll and Bute, Moray and Aberdeen City Councils, for example, all announced their unqualified acceptance of the spirit of the Civil Partnershp Act, as well as its letter.
The lobbying process, and some would say common sense and fairness as well, won the day. On 17th August, at another meeting of the Highland Council Resources Committee, the following was approved:
"a) that Civil Partnerships in Highland be registered in Registration Offices or in other locations agreed for the purpose subject to checks, where appropriate, to establish any health and safety issues which might affect staff in respect of alternative locations
b) that Registration takes the form of a simple registration, or a ceremony as requested by the partners"
And so, Scottish gay weddings websites are up and running, advertising campaigns have started, and wedding venues are having to think through the services they offer to same sex couples after years of catering only to heteros. It will be interesting and not a little exciting to see how they all fare. Whatever happens, the average Scot, Lowlander or Highlander, will be only too ready, willing and able to toast the happy couple with a wee dram of single malt. Slainte!
About The Author
Charlie Taylor lives in Glasgow and is a founder member of Gay Weddings In Scotland http://www.gayweddinginscotland.co.uk/ and its parent company Highland Country Weddings Ltd http://www.highlandcountryweddings.co.uk/. Visit either website for free, no obligation discussion about your wedding plans and free quote.
But the arrival of equality in the wedding aisle north of the border has not been without its hiccups. As The Press and Journal reported on 4th August: "Highland councillors have recommended registrars only perform a basic registration - the absolute minimum required by the legislation..."
Not surprisingly this perceived homophobia caused an uproar in the gay and lesbian community, and among politicians at the national level. Intensive lobbying of the council began.
Other Scottish local authorities reacted differently. Perth and Kinross, Angus, Aberdeenshire, Argyll and Bute, Moray and Aberdeen City Councils, for example, all announced their unqualified acceptance of the spirit of the Civil Partnershp Act, as well as its letter.
The lobbying process, and some would say common sense and fairness as well, won the day. On 17th August, at another meeting of the Highland Council Resources Committee, the following was approved:
"a) that Civil Partnerships in Highland be registered in Registration Offices or in other locations agreed for the purpose subject to checks, where appropriate, to establish any health and safety issues which might affect staff in respect of alternative locations
b) that Registration takes the form of a simple registration, or a ceremony as requested by the partners"
And so, Scottish gay weddings websites are up and running, advertising campaigns have started, and wedding venues are having to think through the services they offer to same sex couples after years of catering only to heteros. It will be interesting and not a little exciting to see how they all fare. Whatever happens, the average Scot, Lowlander or Highlander, will be only too ready, willing and able to toast the happy couple with a wee dram of single malt. Slainte!
About The Author
Charlie Taylor lives in Glasgow and is a founder member of Gay Weddings In Scotland http://www.gayweddinginscotland.co.uk/ and its parent company Highland Country Weddings Ltd http://www.highlandcountryweddings.co.uk/. Visit either website for free, no obligation discussion about your wedding plans and free quote.
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Defending their rite (The Providence Journal)Frank Ferri and Tony Caparco, and Dr. Andrew Snyder and Robert Waters, recently legally wed in Canada, say they'll continue to fight for gay marriage in Rhode Island.
Tuesday, July 04, 2006
The Three Keys to Gay Relationships
by: Tim Partha
As a gay man in his forties I don't claim to be a "dating expert". That said however, I must tell you that personally I don't like to think of two people getting together to spend time with each other as dating. I really dislike labels. When the term dating is used I feel that it denotes preconcieved images of how an evening has to play out. There is nothing wrong with just spending time with somebody and getting to know them without any pressure, and just seeing what happens from there.
I like to be honest with somebody that I am interested in. I think that it is extremely important to be yourself, don't misrepresent who you are, and above all else, to know what you want out of a potential relationship. Just like any other goal that you are striving toward you have to be able to define it. You have to know what you are looking for, in a mate, partner, sex buddy, or whatever kind of relationship you are striving to attain. If you can effectively communicate what you would like your relationship to be and be honest about your expectations, you and your date will know if they are wasting their time. It is always better to know if you are compatible sooner rather than later. I tend to know exactly what I want and I am always honest about communicating it to the other person. At this point you might be thinking that there is no possibility that you could be so bold.
Being bold is not that difficult. Myself, I am generally not a very forward person when it comes to meeting people but, I have thought about each time that I have met an interesting guy whether it be in a bar, coffee house or social event. Each time had something in common. That something is that, somebody has to make contact. Don't use a corny line or gimmick. Be yourself and state what you want. It can be as simple and straight forward as saying, "you look like an interesting guy so I just wanted to come over and say hi". If you want to go to dinner, hang out, go to a movie or whatever....ask for it. I find that being bold and directly stating what you want is more effective than beating around the bush and cuts through all of the game playing. I have had guys tell me that they wanted to, hang out sometime, go to dinner, make me dinner, go to a movie, go to a wine tasting party, have sex, go for coffee and you know what? It worked, not all of the time but a good share of the time. State what you want and you just might get it. Don't play games.
Datable guys, or rather guys with potential for what I am looking for, just have to be who they normally are. Anybody looking for that perfect guy is being unrealistic. Expecting somebody to be perfect is way too much pressure. Our quirks and imperfections are what make us unique and interesting. Don't try too hard, don't be needy, and don't be upset if somebody shoots you down. Go meet somebody else.
So to tie it all up it really is quite simple to meet somebody for whatever type of relationship you are looking for. All you need to remember is to be bold, honest and datable.
About The Author
Tim Partha is just simply a gay man in his forties out in the trenches of gay society. Webmaster of www.gaydatereview.com.
(c) TLP 2006
As a gay man in his forties I don't claim to be a "dating expert". That said however, I must tell you that personally I don't like to think of two people getting together to spend time with each other as dating. I really dislike labels. When the term dating is used I feel that it denotes preconcieved images of how an evening has to play out. There is nothing wrong with just spending time with somebody and getting to know them without any pressure, and just seeing what happens from there.
I like to be honest with somebody that I am interested in. I think that it is extremely important to be yourself, don't misrepresent who you are, and above all else, to know what you want out of a potential relationship. Just like any other goal that you are striving toward you have to be able to define it. You have to know what you are looking for, in a mate, partner, sex buddy, or whatever kind of relationship you are striving to attain. If you can effectively communicate what you would like your relationship to be and be honest about your expectations, you and your date will know if they are wasting their time. It is always better to know if you are compatible sooner rather than later. I tend to know exactly what I want and I am always honest about communicating it to the other person. At this point you might be thinking that there is no possibility that you could be so bold.
Being bold is not that difficult. Myself, I am generally not a very forward person when it comes to meeting people but, I have thought about each time that I have met an interesting guy whether it be in a bar, coffee house or social event. Each time had something in common. That something is that, somebody has to make contact. Don't use a corny line or gimmick. Be yourself and state what you want. It can be as simple and straight forward as saying, "you look like an interesting guy so I just wanted to come over and say hi". If you want to go to dinner, hang out, go to a movie or whatever....ask for it. I find that being bold and directly stating what you want is more effective than beating around the bush and cuts through all of the game playing. I have had guys tell me that they wanted to, hang out sometime, go to dinner, make me dinner, go to a movie, go to a wine tasting party, have sex, go for coffee and you know what? It worked, not all of the time but a good share of the time. State what you want and you just might get it. Don't play games.
Datable guys, or rather guys with potential for what I am looking for, just have to be who they normally are. Anybody looking for that perfect guy is being unrealistic. Expecting somebody to be perfect is way too much pressure. Our quirks and imperfections are what make us unique and interesting. Don't try too hard, don't be needy, and don't be upset if somebody shoots you down. Go meet somebody else.
So to tie it all up it really is quite simple to meet somebody for whatever type of relationship you are looking for. All you need to remember is to be bold, honest and datable.
About The Author
Tim Partha is just simply a gay man in his forties out in the trenches of gay society. Webmaster of www.gaydatereview.com.
(c) TLP 2006
Community Marketing, Inc. Announces Sale of its Gay & Lesbian World Travel Expo division to HX Media, LLC (U.S. Newswire via Yahoo! News)Community Marketing, Inc., the San Francisco-based gay research, marketing and communications firm, announced the sale of its Expo Division to HX Media LLC. Community Marketing innovated the Gay & Lesbian World Travel Expo series in 1993, becoming the first gay market- dedicated travel shows for consumers and travel professionals. HX Media produces the Gay Life Expo, the largest consumer show of
Gay Power: The pink list (Independent)Tonight, London's EuroPride ends with a show at the Royal Albert Hall, featuring Graham Norton, Sir Ian McKellen, Julian Clary, Elton John and Sandi Toksvig. But there is another list of high-profile names linked to this weekend's celebration of gay and lesbian Britain that shows how times have changed since the Pride march was purely political and was attempting to win now accepted rights such
Monday, July 03, 2006
How to choose a Gay Dating Site
by: Paul Kevin
Not all the Gay sites that now proliferate on the internet are well put together and you cannot always rely on them for a pleasant experience! Whilst all the Gay dating sites will clearly not be the same we should consider some basic requirements.
Gay dating sites differ in many aspects including the facilities they provide, the demographics they cater for, the way they allow contact between the members, membership fee, the option of matchmaking and many other aspects. You can choose the best Gay dating site for you by considering these areas to ensure that they meet your requirements.
If you are interested in meeting potential gay partners of a particular age, race or creed then you can look for those sites that have the selective search facility. Many of the sites simply put a list of other people looking for someone, which can create some problems in getting started. However, there are sites available through which you can search using pre-defined criteria. This kind of facility increases the efficiency of the whole process and generally these sorts of sites will attract more people and therefore increase the possibility of finding someone from those who register with them.
Another factor that is important when choosing when deciding which site to use is the nature of and extent to which contact is allowed between the members. Of course it entirely depends on how you want to deal with this issue. There are sites that strictly safeguard personal information like telephone numbers and addresses. However, there are sites that have the facility of private chat rooms that allow sharing of personal details when you feel comfortable doing so. Clearly choosing a site that allows intimate contact may work in your favour as well as against you. The restrictions placed on contact are put in place as a safety measure and it may sometimes restrict your access if you really want to make contact with a potential partner. You should carefully consider the different options available to you before you register yourself with a site to ensure that you are completely happy with the way the site operates.
There are others features that are equally important in choosing a Gay dating site. There can be hundreds if not thousands of profiles available on a gay dating site and it can be tiresome to work your way through them to find a match for yourself. However, some sites offer matchmaking facilities through which you get qualified gay prospects that match with your specific profile. This saves your time and you can get on with the business of meeting potential partners as soon as possible. It is important to analyze the kind of profiles that are displayed on a site before you register. It is important because some sites have pictures enticing you to join the site and then you find that none of the people really exist!
Most importantly, you will want to choose a gay dating site that is user friendly. Some sites are difficult to work with whereas some gay dating sites are smooth platforms which enable you to easily interact and chat with others. Additional features like dating tips and articles can increase the value of the site and many people (especially new users) prefer these kinds of sites. If the sites allow a trial period then using them before paying for it is preferable. For a perfect gay online dating experience it is essential to find a gay dating site that meets your needs!
About The Author
Paul Kevin provides a great resource on Gay Dating at http://www.gay-dating-sites.co.uk.
Not all the Gay sites that now proliferate on the internet are well put together and you cannot always rely on them for a pleasant experience! Whilst all the Gay dating sites will clearly not be the same we should consider some basic requirements.
Gay dating sites differ in many aspects including the facilities they provide, the demographics they cater for, the way they allow contact between the members, membership fee, the option of matchmaking and many other aspects. You can choose the best Gay dating site for you by considering these areas to ensure that they meet your requirements.
If you are interested in meeting potential gay partners of a particular age, race or creed then you can look for those sites that have the selective search facility. Many of the sites simply put a list of other people looking for someone, which can create some problems in getting started. However, there are sites available through which you can search using pre-defined criteria. This kind of facility increases the efficiency of the whole process and generally these sorts of sites will attract more people and therefore increase the possibility of finding someone from those who register with them.
Another factor that is important when choosing when deciding which site to use is the nature of and extent to which contact is allowed between the members. Of course it entirely depends on how you want to deal with this issue. There are sites that strictly safeguard personal information like telephone numbers and addresses. However, there are sites that have the facility of private chat rooms that allow sharing of personal details when you feel comfortable doing so. Clearly choosing a site that allows intimate contact may work in your favour as well as against you. The restrictions placed on contact are put in place as a safety measure and it may sometimes restrict your access if you really want to make contact with a potential partner. You should carefully consider the different options available to you before you register yourself with a site to ensure that you are completely happy with the way the site operates.
There are others features that are equally important in choosing a Gay dating site. There can be hundreds if not thousands of profiles available on a gay dating site and it can be tiresome to work your way through them to find a match for yourself. However, some sites offer matchmaking facilities through which you get qualified gay prospects that match with your specific profile. This saves your time and you can get on with the business of meeting potential partners as soon as possible. It is important to analyze the kind of profiles that are displayed on a site before you register. It is important because some sites have pictures enticing you to join the site and then you find that none of the people really exist!
Most importantly, you will want to choose a gay dating site that is user friendly. Some sites are difficult to work with whereas some gay dating sites are smooth platforms which enable you to easily interact and chat with others. Additional features like dating tips and articles can increase the value of the site and many people (especially new users) prefer these kinds of sites. If the sites allow a trial period then using them before paying for it is preferable. For a perfect gay online dating experience it is essential to find a gay dating site that meets your needs!
About The Author
Paul Kevin provides a great resource on Gay Dating at http://www.gay-dating-sites.co.uk.
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Lesbian Dating
by: Andy Balasis
Lesbian dating is becoming more and more popular in open society. People are now open to the fact that women are in relationships with each other, and men just love it. Females that openly admit that they are gay are often popular with other members of their community, although this was not the case years ago. With lesbian relationships being the basis of most men's fantasies it is no wonder that society has relaxed more to women being gay than men.
Some women are still against the idea though but they are of the minority. Figures show that there are a lot more supporters to the gay cause than there have ever been before. More women are know opening up to the fact that they think about or have actually had sexual contact with other women and it is a known fact that most women will think about it during their life. We are now in a very open and modern society so it is no wonder that these figures have been made public and are not shocking.
Lesbians showing affection to each other in public would be tolerated, but if a gay (men) couple were to do this they would be harassed. It is still sad to see that because there is more "nice" exposure on the lesbian front men gay couples are still suffering bad media attention although there are some very famous men who have openly admitted being gay.
Today's world has opened up new doors for lesbian couples (and gays). We live in a world where you can join in a civil partnership (a marriage) with your partner rather than ridiculed and made a fun of. This just goes to show that differences are being accepted and that no one should have to hide who they are, or what they are because they may not be accepted by the public eye. I say who cares what others think, be yourself. And being yourself has become much easier with online gay club, gay personals, lesbian dating at www.onlinegayclub.com .
About The Author
Andy Balasis writes articles about struggles in today's society..money,dating and sexuality issues. If you would like to know more about online gay club, gay personals or lesbian dating please visit www.OnlineGayClub.com.
admin@onlinegayclub.com
Lesbian dating is becoming more and more popular in open society. People are now open to the fact that women are in relationships with each other, and men just love it. Females that openly admit that they are gay are often popular with other members of their community, although this was not the case years ago. With lesbian relationships being the basis of most men's fantasies it is no wonder that society has relaxed more to women being gay than men.
Some women are still against the idea though but they are of the minority. Figures show that there are a lot more supporters to the gay cause than there have ever been before. More women are know opening up to the fact that they think about or have actually had sexual contact with other women and it is a known fact that most women will think about it during their life. We are now in a very open and modern society so it is no wonder that these figures have been made public and are not shocking.
Lesbians showing affection to each other in public would be tolerated, but if a gay (men) couple were to do this they would be harassed. It is still sad to see that because there is more "nice" exposure on the lesbian front men gay couples are still suffering bad media attention although there are some very famous men who have openly admitted being gay.
Today's world has opened up new doors for lesbian couples (and gays). We live in a world where you can join in a civil partnership (a marriage) with your partner rather than ridiculed and made a fun of. This just goes to show that differences are being accepted and that no one should have to hide who they are, or what they are because they may not be accepted by the public eye. I say who cares what others think, be yourself. And being yourself has become much easier with online gay club, gay personals, lesbian dating at www.onlinegayclub.com .
About The Author
Andy Balasis writes articles about struggles in today's society..money,dating and sexuality issues. If you would like to know more about online gay club, gay personals or lesbian dating please visit www.OnlineGayClub.com.
admin@onlinegayclub.com
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Gay Dating
by: Andy Balasis
Gay dating has been scrutinized for many years, and in history it has been known that men who were openly gay were not only abused but some were even killed. Gay dating has been a controversy for many, many years but as of lately people have come to realise that there is nothing wrong with gay dating. Gay men are as natural as a straight couple. There is no difference, they love each other the same, the commitment issues are still the same and the only thing different is that they are of the same sex.
Gay men are everywhere; they can be your next door neighbour or the admin guy at your work. They are the same as any other person and should not be criticised just because of their sexual nature. In today's world we can land on the moon, we can trace people back to the dawn of time and we can tell who someone is from a tiny spot of blood so why is their still prejudice towards gay couples?
However, recent changes in law and governments have shows that the prejudice towards gay people is receding, and about time too. New laws in the United Kingdom have allowed gay couples to be married, known as a civil partnership, following in the steps of other countries such as Canada, Netherlands and Spain.
Gay dating has come a long way from its dark history. People are now openly gay and it's not just people like you and me, Elton John is openly gay and has just been through a civil partnership to his partner in full view of the media. Gay exposure does wonders for the cause. It opens up the world in a new light to others to let them see that there is nothing wrong with a gay couple. That they live normal day to day lives and feel the same as every other couple does. People have only now just started to realize life is no longer greener on the other side! They realize there is online gay club, gay personals, lesbian dating at www.onlinegayclub.com where they can be themselves.
About The Author
Andy Balasis writes articles about struggles in today's society..money,dating and sexuality issues. If you would like to know more about online gay club, gay personals or lesbian dating please visit www.OnlineGayClub.com.
admin@onlinegayclub.com
Gay dating has been scrutinized for many years, and in history it has been known that men who were openly gay were not only abused but some were even killed. Gay dating has been a controversy for many, many years but as of lately people have come to realise that there is nothing wrong with gay dating. Gay men are as natural as a straight couple. There is no difference, they love each other the same, the commitment issues are still the same and the only thing different is that they are of the same sex.
Gay men are everywhere; they can be your next door neighbour or the admin guy at your work. They are the same as any other person and should not be criticised just because of their sexual nature. In today's world we can land on the moon, we can trace people back to the dawn of time and we can tell who someone is from a tiny spot of blood so why is their still prejudice towards gay couples?
However, recent changes in law and governments have shows that the prejudice towards gay people is receding, and about time too. New laws in the United Kingdom have allowed gay couples to be married, known as a civil partnership, following in the steps of other countries such as Canada, Netherlands and Spain.
Gay dating has come a long way from its dark history. People are now openly gay and it's not just people like you and me, Elton John is openly gay and has just been through a civil partnership to his partner in full view of the media. Gay exposure does wonders for the cause. It opens up the world in a new light to others to let them see that there is nothing wrong with a gay couple. That they live normal day to day lives and feel the same as every other couple does. People have only now just started to realize life is no longer greener on the other side! They realize there is online gay club, gay personals, lesbian dating at www.onlinegayclub.com where they can be themselves.
About The Author
Andy Balasis writes articles about struggles in today's society..money,dating and sexuality issues. If you would like to know more about online gay club, gay personals or lesbian dating please visit www.OnlineGayClub.com.
admin@onlinegayclub.com
Jail warning to teacher who had sex with pupil (Yorkshire Post Today)Olwen Dudgeon and Alexandra Wood A TEACHER has been warned that he faces a jail sentence after he admitted having a sexual relationship with a pupil. (27/06/2006 07:43:57)
STAR'S UNDER-AGE SEX CHARGE (Sunday Mail)FOLK star Calum Iain - real name Malcolm MacCorquodale - has been charged with under-age sex offences. It is claimed he had a sexual relationship with a 15-year-old girl over several months.
